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An interesting call came my way yesterday . A friend said she is flying to the US to marry someone whom she has never met ( its ALL online ) and has no interests in coming to India. Yes , parents knew a zilch on this and the girl , in spite of my heavy head banging was in no mood to listen to me . Sometimes even I fail .
The second interesting call came from my dear friend who is scheduled to get married to her fiancé of three years , next week . And this one was a shocker!! He is cancelling the marriage and marring someone whom he met just about 6 months back . Before you get your thinking horses started , the ‘would be girl ‘refused to get married to him since she could feel the pain of the actual girl . The boy shared the same with his fiancé . And there is more. The fiancé’s reply was- "Yes ,you should go ahead , because for me your happiness is supreme and even if you get married to me I know you will never be able to love me and stay with me . So it’s far better to be with someone WHOM you love than you not loving someone ."
Love is like water
My take ( since I knew all the three ) on the second stance and the fiancé ,for me particularly commands nothing but respect and more respect . Believe me , I feel like kicking my friends butt for this but the finance’s stance and revert have left me shaken . How can you let go of someone you love ? Someone you know ? Someone you are about to get married to next week ? But , in between all of this remember what she said – YOUR happiness is supreme. This is called enlightenment . This is true love. A person has seen the future. A person with so pure a heart has actually visualized that she will not be happy and moreover , ‘he’ will not be happy.
We can debate and curse the ‘would be girl ‘ and the guy but the fact of the matter is , the fiancé has actually shared the truth . She has understood that she herself will not be happy. People can say why were they getting married at the first place or weren't the two in love ?
Love is water. You cannot define it . There is a fine a layer which separates liking from loving . People often confuse the two . You may like someone and yes its love, at a much lesser level though but no , its not loving .
Love is what you "2" make it
Loving means you love the person in a way , you don’t love yourself also. Her presence makes you lighten up , glowing to be more specific and more importantly you know she feels the same . When one is down and low , just by seeing her sitting right next to him can actually make him feel blessed . Love also means that you know the other person has limits and he may not have lived your life . This makes a chance to make him live your life , learn with him and make him to do things you are a master at. It’s like saying a child , a new born , is fresh into the world and here is this mother who pampers him with all the love she has . And more .
I am still thinking my stand on the above two , but believe me , there is no right or wrong . At the end there are 2 persons who love each other 100% and more .
And yes , things will not be the same as ever . But remember moments are something that only two people make special . It doesn't matter even it’s a simple coffee and a Parle –G. Spend time loving these people and making these moments special. This time don’t leave things to chance.
Sri Sri says - Like in the spring, the entire creation just springs up. The birds sing, trees blossom. Like that when energy is kindled in you, it creates awe. You spring out of dullness, out of the inertia, out of the routine. New life springs up - that is love and may be that's what happens in love.
It’s a strange world and stranger than this are the people that live here. And even more than this are the relationships ,that these people get into.
I am no expert in the area of relationship nor there is anything wrong or right in a relationship . There isn't any prediction which happens and there aren't any chances that don’t occur . Somewhere in between all of this two people stay and keep themselves afloat .
A father and a daughter relationship is on a different trajectory all together . Considered one of the most pious of all this is a relationship where the two are only two and just for the two . The father knows one day the daughter has to go and there will be void in his home and in his heart . The daughter knows he will always be the first man in her life and nobody , NOBODY will ever care for her and love her the way her father does .
A son and a mother is a typical sweet and sour relationship wherein the son , in cases , the baby will always remain a baby . He will never grow old , he will never be too big to not be a baby and never to old to not to come and discuss his life with his mom . This is a delicate one and filled with just pure love and care . A bond so strong that words can’t describe much.
A would be wife and a would be husband , is a relationship which is in middle of nowhere . They stay in the middle , the settings in the background changes . If they were friends at one point and then they choose to take a level beyond this then though a higher level is attained the very essence of friendship at times get lost and hence this is one of the most sensitive of all relationships.
A boyfriend and a girlfriend who have been together for a good time ( believe me there is no good time . 5 years is too less a time and 5 days is too big a duration ) and have vowed to stay together till eternity is one of those which is build on dreams . Dreams on life , what future holds , how things moved and will move and a whole lot of un-hidden things . And then there is somewhere in between friendship – a relationship which nobody understands but everyone wants to be a part of. Remember , good friends and close friends are those with whom you can fight , cry on their shoulder , pull a leg or an ear or may be just cook up a coffee with more water and less coffee . This is a relationship which can only grow and grow and become more strong . These are people who help you lead your life and make you see the mirror when you may be shining a bit too bright . One of those relationships in which you have to be either inside or around the fence but not outside.
These are just my thoughts and I am sure there would loads of unsaid relationships you were a part of or will be in one .Nurture them , stay in them and most importantly believe in them.
If you analyse life deeply you will come to know that there are many life's within your life . These are beyond your control since your own life is also not under your control :P Often, in sweep seconds many things happen in parallel . Someone somewhere gets a new life , someone moves out from this world to another , a child gets his first pocket money , a love blooms within two hearts and yes , somewhere in the sky the stars also move houses . Yesterday , a friend of mine called and on the phone she started weeping . Early in the day right in front of her eyes a person riding a cycle got smashed out by a speeding SUV . Within a fraction of a second the person riding the cycle was in the air and his cycle was beyond any damage that could be repaired . The SUV guy fled from the seen leaving behind a person in blood and making him near to his death. If you read the above there are number of things that may have happened. The person riding the cycle would be going to work on his usual time on the same road . The SUV guy would also be in a similar ecosystem . My friend who usually wakes up late morning only that day woke up early for a jog . All seems normal . Yet , what happened changed the life's of all the three . This is what I always call as the 'hidden power' which is always there watching all of us. It has the capacity to do the unimaginable , to give life to someone and yes , to take life away from someone.
A friend of mine often tells me that
everyday he takes a 2 minute break and thinks and says - 'Yes , I know one day
this will be all gone . I will no longer be in this world with my near and dear
ones . That day I will come and meet you and I want you to say to me-
'Yes my son , you did a good job' ".
This brings him back to the ground to the reality to the very fact that one
needs to do everyday nothing but 'good karmas' . Time is already counted and
its has started the day you were born . Try to touch as many lives
as you can and spread the goodness inside you with everyone in the outside
world . Remember , sufferings are not what we need to know how to deal
with . Its the blessings that we need to count and the prayers we need to do
for everyone around us that makes life worth living .
What happened to the cycle guy . Yes, he is recovering and hopefully will be
fit and fine soon to cycle life's journey.
Today is Ahoi Ashtami .This vrat is
observed 8 days before Diwali i.e. on Kartik Krishna Paksha Ashtami. This fast
and its Puja are dedicated to Mata Ahoi or Goddess Ahoi (a form of Maa
Parvati). She is worshipped by women for the well-being and long life of their
children. This day is also known as Ahoi Aathe or karwathe.
Similar to karwa Chauth, Mothers
observe fast from dawn to dusk. Fast is broken during twilight after sighting
stars in the sky.
The sad part about
people is - that you love them.
Now,that’s my friend what life is all about ~ Karan
A chance encounter with someone from the past whom you would
have forgotten rekindled a walk down the memory lane. For not the walk was a
smooth or a bumpy ride but for the sheer joy of walking together. It’s a basic
human instinct that you feel nice , you feel wanted when you are in a company
accompanied by someone you know / knew .
It’s just a safe and secure thing to feel for .
This friend of mine was a decade old now. And yes, I too had moved on to complete a decade.
As they say memories are formed not out of the cutest or the sweetest of things
but the ones that create an impact - are truly remarkable.
Destiny has plans for most of us . However, very few choose to ‘plan’ and
implement these ‘plans’. When someone comes in and then walks out of our life
it’s not because their time is complete in our journey but it’s that there is
someone new waiting to come on-board.
Very remotely we realize who went by and who came in. And then one fine
day – spark – they drop in to say Hi and you are left with no conversation
starters. Memories just flash by with
pictures and moments capturing what you had shared in the past.
Pictures, aha ! makes me come to an another interesting
point . Have you ever realized most of us love getting clicked for various
reasons? It’s nice after all to see our
own selves and recollect all those memories
/ moments passed by with the people who were a part of us at that point
in time .
And this is how the above actually happened .The long lost
friend of mine was browsing through a set of images when she stumbled upon
‘this set’ . And as they say , visuals
can hold your breath let apart thoughts.
One series led to another and given
the connected world the pictures were uploaded and were shared all across. A step further, an email connect happened
with the ‘gang’ where in a ‘chosen’ set
of pictures were shared with everyone . And believe me , in a span for under 1
hour , people from India , Australia , the
US and yes , Bali - were all connected . Some would argue that this is the
power of social media – yes ! but the larger power is the power of –love . The
power of being together , the power of memories .
One picture and 5 updates. People had moves jobs , changes
locations , had raised families and some of them had put on weight . Suddenly everyone’s
‘do not disturb’ signage got changed to ‘available now’ .
We are not busy , we
are just too caught up in our otherwise simple life. This made so much
sense to me now . The feeling is deep sinking yet something fun .
So you know the next time you are feeling low , or high –
get clicked . Revisit those folders where you have bags full of joys waiting to
be played. Drop in an image with a one
line update and see how fast you reach out to . And remember people move and
fade away – memories stay .
A special thanks to a special someone for making me get ‘my
bag’ of these special moments.
On a lighter note - I wonder if there will be a day when cameras would be redundant given our cell phones are taking over .
Also , stumbled upon this interesting piece of work from Citibank today . Thought of sharing :
Why wait when you can fly and be present in person
It’s hard and at times tough when you don’t get what you
want / wanted or desired. Ever seen a
child cry for something that you would not buy for him or her knowing that’s it’s
of no use but still you go ahead and buy because you can’t see your child in tears??
I remember back in my childhood days there were a number of
instances when I used to literally ‘blackmail’
my parents into buying that –
latest ‘ lay-a-hen ‘ toy or a ‘hot wheels mega set’ or may be a
‘button wala” pencil box and they used to
run or ring the shop to get or buy it for me .
It’s not that these things were my favorite or I would have cried a
river to get them, but the fact is, at that point time those were my favorite.
Little did I realized, that some years down the lane I would never ever open
the packed boxes of these things.
It’s also not that I have changed or these things no longer
hold relevance for me. It’s just that I have got bored and I no longer need or
require them. They are in short , not my favorite anymore.
Favorites by definition are a varied set. For some there
could be -humans whom they like a lot and hence are a favorite. For others,
it’s the worldly materialistic things that matters – may be a watch , a car ,
the next big bling iPhone or even just getting that sparkling yellow dress for
your next birthday .
Someone would argue and say favorites always stay favorites.
A favorite color, Pink,will always remain a favorite . Shah Rukh Khan for some
will always remain the number 1 entertainer and hence a favorite . The vacation
which you took to ,say Paris , last year , will always remain your favorite
. The first branded watch which came as
a gift on your B-school placement will and always be your favorite. The first
kiss from your now ex whom you are no longer on talking terms will be your
favorite kiss . Your grandma’s french fries will always and always remain the
best even if you traveled the world over in search of the best fries
Seeing the star studded the sky for some folks is the best
thing they would want to do every evening though it’s a different equation that
given our city lives we hardly get time to go ‘home on time’ let apart do
So why do favorites change ?
What is it that makes this change happen ? Why is it that some things
that you once loved and loved are no longer even remotely recollected by your
mind ? And such other queries …..
Well, in simple words if I have to put it &answer it
would be – YOU CHANGE. During one of my
astrological sessions with some of my peers, I told them that the lines on your
palms change every day every moment . Give it a shot .Though, it’s not easy to
see the changes but it does happen. Same
is the case with YOU and all of us . As we grow and progress in life , our mind
and heart also change and adapt accordingly . Some of you would say – stars and the
astrological equations also change .Yes
, indeed !!
But more importantly, you tend to move away to something
more new & more fresh . Ever thought , when you were in school and changed
/ moved classes - the entire feel of a –
new bag , new pencil box , new books ,new water bottle , new tiffin box and may
be a new watch or a pair of new shoes made you go “wow “ .
What exactly changed
here – Everything was the same . A book
or maybe a curriculum just upgraded
itself . The school remained the same
, may be the teachers also , and most importantly –YOU also were the
same . There was a time when the now old
school bag was your favorite but no longer now .
Similar is the case with life. Life moves one and on . Time
moves along with. Learn to appreciate what you have every day - be it big or small,
significant or insignificant, expensive or priceless. Remember you are privileged
than many others around you. For them you are nothing less than a king or a
queen and they can never attain or get what you have already left.
Remember “Geet” from Jab We Met saying , “ main apni
favorite hoon “ ! After all, if you
don’t love yourself first , who else
will . And I can go on and on….and suddenly this post will become
my ‘favorite ‘post which is not the case since all of my posts are special and
really special. Each one of them has a favorite element in it which makes it
all the more special, and they are all
written by me and I am my own favorite :) :)
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one liner .